I have a lot of friends that are struggling in relationships. They ask me what’s my secret and why I’m so strong. I tell them that they have to know their self worth. I’ve dealt with my fair share of troubles in relationships but I stand up for myself. I’ve always been really feisty when it comes to someone thinking they are gonna disrespect me. Now, as time has passed (I’m married now of course), I just began to turn the other cheek and just say, “NO! I’m not dealing with this and you better respect me or hit the road!”
I know it hurts sometimes to move on from a man that you love but trust me, sometimes it’s better to just let him go. He will come back if he loves you and with respect this time. Men tend to get off track sometimes but we as women have to stand up for ourselves and let them know that what they are doing is unacceptable and will not be tolerated, at all. In the long run, this will for sure pay off, ladies. Trust me please. If you feel down and think you want to call after taking a break from your loved one when you have been let down by them, get a friend you trust that you can talk to to get you through this tough time instead. Someone that won’t judge you. Use this time to talk to God and be around the ones who truly love you. Don’t run after him, especially if he is the one who screwed up. If he loves you, he’ll be back.
I haven’t had my heart broken(cause I don’t give it away easily) but for those that are going through a heartbreak, let it go and let God handle it but never and I mean NEVER settle for less. Please ladies! We GOTTA KNOW OUR POWER AND OUR WORTH or they won’t.
Tip of the day: Value yourselves!!!
Wearing: Sweet Rags Top With F21 shorts, Guess sandals. (Back to 93* here)
That top is banging its very flowy and aww Guess Sandals I use to work at Guess lol. BUt anyhoo you look beautiful and refreshed as usual. I know your mad at me because of my hair lol, BUt I always love your style with the braid on the side
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SO TRUE! I AGREE WITH YOU STAND UP FOR YOUR SELF LADIES, IF ITS MEANT TO BE IT WILL BE! I SEEN SO MANY RELATIONSHIPS THAT "SO PERFECT' AND USE TO THINK WHY CANT I HAVE A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THAT!! BUT AFTER A WHILE I SEE THAT THAT 'SO PERFECT OF A RELATIONSHIP" IS OVER. GIVE YOURSELF SPACE AND TIME DO YOU THING HANG OUT BY URSELF OR WITH YOUR FRIENDS AWAY FROM YOU MAN!
TRUST ME ITS WORTH IT, YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT AND DISCUSS AND THERE WILL BE NO ROOM FOR ARGUMENTS. DONT GET ME WRONG IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP HAS 0 ARGUMENTS THEN YOU SHOULD CONSIDER TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER ITS NOT HEALTHY, ARGUMENTS ONES IN A WHILE ITS FINE THAT'S LIFE THAT'S ACTUALLY HEALTHY.
SPENDING 24/7 WITH YOUR MAN WILL ONLY HARM YOU IN THE LONG RUN. DO YOUR OWN THINGS AND LET HIM DO HIS AND THAT MOMENT WHEN U SEE EACH OTHER AT THE END OF A DAY WILL GIVE YOU BUTTERFLIES IN YOUR STOMACH AND ULL HAVE AN AMAZING FEELING RATHER THEN SEEING UR MAN 24/7
Yes know your self worth if you don't know your self worth how is anybody eles
I luv this! You are a doll (black barbie,lol).
I am so glad you posted this because I tend to give my heart away too easy because I love people so much, especially men. I always seem to see and find the good in them, overlooking the bad. I am a hopeless romantic, I guess. Or at least I used to be BUT i understand the importance of NOT overlooking the bad and "protecting you heart with all diligence." It's funny how those bible scriptures mean so much when you have to go thru the pain of not using them. i have had my heart broken too many times and I am so thankful to God that I am still here and in my right mind!! I don't alway expect people to jsut treat me bad for absolutely no reason, or change their personality like the wind but low and behold, they do. And some take pride in it. Be careful and do stand your ground ladies. BUT most importantly, don't give your heart away freely because after you give too much of yourself and invest too much it becomes extremely difficult to walk away. I am VERY fortunate that it didn't kill me but made me stronger.
If you don't have this problem. GREAT! HALLELUJAH! But if you know like I know…BE CAREFUL!
Tonya, I have known you for a long time and seen your different relationships and I have always, always, always admired you for putting it down like a G : ) I gotta give credit where credit is due. Period.
Now, you look beautiful as usual and u know I luv that dress. Great look. Beautiful hair.
Proverbs 4:23 (New International Version)
23 Above all else, guard your heart,
for it is the wellspring of life.
Oh Thank God you never had your heartbroken. I've had my share and I wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy! I'd add that if a man tells you he's not ready. Believe him and move on. You'll save yourself some trouble in the long run. and I like your hair like this…now I see your daughter…she looks just like you! I dont know how I never noticed it before.
@ everyone I love the feedback! It's like your stories is a blog post in itself!
@ Keisha – glad you shared your story! It's coming from someone this has happened to. Others will read this and learn a lot from you. I admire you in so many ways. Can I just say round of applause for you Keisha! I can't wait until you start your blog. Stay tune ladies it'll be very motivational and uplifting.;)
Thank you Tanya!
I can't wait to release my blog either, I have been working on it everyday. Feels good to be admired. I feel that everyone has something to be admired for. Too bad we can't combine ourselves into one person. We'd be perfect! But, what we can do is share our gifts and life experiences with each other and learn from each other.
Thank you for sharing your gifts. Looking forward to the next post…
Amen, sister!
You look gorgeous!
Hope you have a fab weekend too!
xoxox,
CC
True indeed! You always give the best advice.
Stay Blessed!
You look lovely! SPecially love you hair ! 🙂
Good Advice. Self worth! You one else is about to stand up for yourself. You are all you've got! Happy Weekend Tanya! 🙂 I ABSOLUTELY LOVE interacting with you daily. You always brighten me day!
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Tonya,
I swear your posts have been speaking to me the last couple of days. I'm a 24 year old woman that just recently got out of a four year relationship. I follow your blog daily and I've grown to reallly respect the woman you are internally. I made the decision to break off my 4 year relationship in order to grow and become a woman of my own. For the past four years I've been taken care off financially but was an emotional wreck (immature drama). Now that I am single I have promised to put God first and family second. As you stated in your post a woman MUST stand her ground and never settle for less. Though I am struggling on my own financially the freedom I feel is priceless. Thank you so much for your wise words and admirable fashion sense. You are killing it out here!!!!
Your fan,
Rissa
great tip of the day–lovely advice. and your hair looks wonderful.
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This is definitely on point Tanya! I'm married too and I can tell you one thing………….When you love "SELF" first, everything else falls right into place.
I really like your hair here. I have tried over and over to do this braid and it always comes out as if I'm 7, my mom's on vacation without us, and my dad has done my hair. (I finally just accepted that when he braided my hair it would always be uneven and stick out)
You're so right about the value of oneself. My best friend would rather have some loser that she already knows isn't for her than to be alone. I have another friend that's dating a guy I'm sure will start abusing her the minute she says "I do" and she thinks it too, but can't seem to cut ties. These are intelligent women that you'd think would know better than that, but they don't or just don't do anything about it. The hardest part is keeping your tongue because when you're the single friend and you say something about it, they automatically brand you a hater or attempt to compare it to something ridiculous you did when you were 19.
Completely off the subject, but this bothers me … why is everyone a hater? "Everyone can't possibly be a hater baby, some people just don't like you." <– Quote from my mom LOL
Lol Ebony! I love your moms quote.
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great post!
you're so gorgeous…I love your look.
i'm in total agreement and a key factor and not being defined by a man is having a life of your own. i love being in a relationship, but i love my me time as well. it's too much pressure to feel like you are responsible for someone else's happiness and i think a man appreciates a woman who can hold her own. neediness never has been and never will be cute!
Amen!!!
Great post! You definitely have lot of strength in this area…our many late night conversations have helped me grow my own inner strength when it comes to relationships. Amaya and Layla are lucky they have a strong mother as a role model. Many girls don't see this in their moms or have relationships with their fathers. I believe your first relationship with your father helps a young lady to know her worth when it comes to men..when you don't have that you learn by trial and error and of course learning gods perfect love can help speed the process of knowing your value. As always great top and love the hair!
Relationships are so hard at first…I find that being myself up front is good FOR ME, I want to meet the real person and not their rep…We have to as ladies talk to us anf be real to us. Let him go and if God put him there forever he will bring him back so love yourself and pray that you can be stronge….If it doesnt return then just say, :hey it wasnt for me to keep". Like the summer look boo
Great advice and well said! xx
Thanks Rissa for stopping by. Stay strong and God will bless you with all that your heart desires.:)
Of Course this is my favorite Post! I think the statement " I Can Do Bad All By Myself" says it all ! I have a simple rule I live by " I'd rather be single and enjoying myself than Miserable with someone else" – and you can quote me! Resheda – and of course I LOVE the pretty blue mini dress and the invisible F21 shorts, LOL.
You better preach. Great Post.
We should always think of ourselves as God Women. I didnt say good, I said God Women. Because a God Woman is better than good.
Somebody added that other "o" so they could push us farther from God and make us into what they wanted us to be. Not I beacuse I know what and who I am because I know from whence I came.
And HE dont make no mistakes.
TCD
…I know that this is an old post, but it came just in time for me today. Thank you!
J