The two letters below are apology letters written to me.
Subject: I posted at the gossip colum, and I’d like to apologize.
Message: T, Dear Tanya,
I hope that this email brings you and your family some peace of mind. I know you have been praying about it, and so have I. From what I can glean from reading your blog, I see that we are both Christians.
I am not the person who started the thread at the site, but I am the person who posted about you in the thread. It hurts me that I brought fear and drama into your life. I want you to know that I did not post the info to hurt you, or slander you in any way. In fact, I really wasn’t thinking when I did it. I got sucked into the negative atmosphere.
My friend and I were checking out your blog, which I only learned of a week ago. You mentioned that you were a stylist, and I was curious to learn more. I wanted to know if you worked with any celebs, or were popular in LA.
I’m really disappointed in myself. that site is always asking about someone, and I just responded without thinking anything of it. I was up late, tired, with a glass of wine.
When I reread what I posted, I realized that it came across as mean spirited and my friend told me it was just going to bring drama. After reading your blog some more, I can see that you are too sweet and too nice of a person and that you don’t deserve that. Speaking negatively of someone is not in my heart, not my nature. I’m not a “hater” and I surely don’t want to be associated with those bitter chicks at that site, because that is not me. People had already been talking about you for 3 pages before I posted, and had already made all types of accusations and assumptions about your life, which is unfortunate.
I tried to go back and delete my post, but there was no edit button on the account. That site is very negative place, and I no longer want to be associated it. I can’t consider myself a good Christian if I keep visiting that site. All they do is talk about people, trash, bash, and gossip. I see that the Admins deleted some info and moved the thread, but now it looks like they have moved it back. I have asked them several times to delete all of my posts, as well as my account, but since they like drama, they’re ignoring me. I wish I could get the whole thread deleted for you, but since I didn’t start it, I can’t. People keep private messaging me for info, but I refuse to respond them. I’m also reporting anyone that continues to ask me questions or post in that thread. I am doing what I can to help you.
I assure you that I am about as harmless as they come, and I’m not obsessed with your life. I barely have time to focus on my own. I’m not a nosy person per se, but I consider myself very analytical by nature, as I am in school with plans to become a lawyer. I’m always trying to figure someone out and get to the bottom of things. Sometimes that gets me in trouble, and again, I apologize.
If I were you, I would continue asking them to delete the thread, and if not, I would register and post my own personal statement. That usually puts an end to their foolishness. They bashed a friend of mine, and it got quite nasty, but not much could be done about it. Drama eventually died down on its own after she confronted them online.
I honestly wonder how that site stays up, and am curious as to how they’ve managed to avoid lawsuits. But then again, slander and libel issues are civil suits that are very hard to prove. You also have to find a judge willing to hear the case. There are more important issues up for trial like criminal suits. The things they were saying in the thread are things reasonably assumed after reading your blog.
I know you have a right to be angry, and trust that I am even angrier with myself for being stupid and gullible enough to be lured into that negative atmosphere. I’m even more devastated that I hurt someone. I hate that place with a passion. Honestly, I don’t think anything will come of this. Look at all your blog comments! You have lots of fans. They’d be disappointed if you took down your blog.
My friend emailed you also, but I’m not sure if you got it. She was telling you how you could protect yourself if you blog online. I also recommend signing up for Google Alerts, which will alert you anytime someone references you or mentions your name.
As for me, again, I would like to sincerely apologize. If there was anything else I could to remedy the situation I would, but I’m just a broke college student who is in poor health. I don’t want any trouble. I can’t afford it, physically or financially. I’m not online much, and for the most part I mind my business and live a quiet existence. I am very very very sorry, and I will continue fighting for you at that site, until they delete my account like I asked them to. I hope that you will find it in your heart to forgive me.
And oh yeah, please don’t delete your blog. Your positive energy keeps me inspired and motivated despite many of the negative and trying things that are going on in my own life right now. I will pray for you. Please do the same for me.
But I say unto you, Love your enimies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and prosecute you: for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.
Message: Dear Tanya,
I’m here with the person who posted on thegossip colum. I will claim partial responsibility since I was present when the info was posted, and my info may be attached to the gossip colum account account. I surely don’t want any trouble and can’t afford it.
I’d like to speak on her behalf. She’s a shy and god-fearing person who would never have it in her heart to “slander” someone. She doesn’t even gossip or hang out on this site often. She’s just a poor PT student who works FT…She doesn’t have any money, or clout, or a reputation. She barely has any friends. It was an err of bad judgment andpeer pressure that made her post. We asked the Admins at the gossip colum to delete all the posts, as well as her account for your benefit as well as her own. She has not posted this info anywhere else, and promises not to say another word. There are no ill feelings or intentions – we like you and we love your blog.
I follow your blog, and yes, we were both very curious as to how you seem to have so many nice things. You mentioned that you were a stylist, and I went online to see if you were popular in LA/have worked with celebrities, and other things mentioned. Same type of stuff people look up when they are trying to get info about celebrities. Just general info, nothing that invades privacy. I always like to know who’s who in the entertainment world. We thought you might have celeb connections. Several people in the thread made assumptions about your life based on what they’ve read in your blog . When you put it out there, people will assume. They were curious as to whether or not you were married to a celeb or athlete…..all that silly stuff.
We were sitting there reading the thread where people were asking all kinds of questions and making assumptions about you. My friend was annoyed with the behavior of the posters on that site, and how they admire and worship everyone, and thought she was teaching a lesson by showing that everything is not always as it appears, and that people shouldn’t be so envious. The intent was not to slander or speak ill, but when we realized that it could be perceived as such, she decided that she wanted to delete that post. Unfortunately, at this site, newer members cannot edit or delete their own posts.
Again, I speak for my friend, but we’re both very sorry about this, want to put the drama behind us, and we hope and pray that it ends for you. We wanted to get the thread deleted . We’d both be very disappointed if you deleted your blog. No one here is out to cause you any harm and no one is obsessed with your life. You can call off the investigators, and there is no need to worry because you and your beautiful fam are not in any danger. If anything, I’d be more angry with the person who started the topic on the site than my friend who basically answered the questions asked. It’s sad that people are so concerned with others.
I will tell you this also – when you make your life public, you have to be prepared for people to want to know more. I’ve had my own Internet drama, and that is why I chose to go offline and live my life in private.
You have a right to be angry…and I’m angry for you. I’m also disappointed in my friend, and myself. So far, we’ve done all we can right now to protect you and make things right. The gossip colum had deleted the info in the thread, and my friend is working on getting the entire thread deleted. We both wish that it had never happened. But again, I assure you that there was no ill will or harm intended.
To you – I say keep doing you….and don’t delete that blog! You’ve got a great sense of fashion, and I’m sure this blog will take you far. I love your positive energy. It’s not where we came from, it’s where we end up that matters. My own road has not been paved with gold. But it’s our experiences that make us stronger, and make us the people that we are today. This too shall pass.