A good friend of mine was reading my post and came to the following conclusion: when a father and daughter have a more meaningful relationship, where he’s a constant in her life, the daughter may be much more successful in her adult relationships. Most times when a woman has an ongoing, happy relationship with her father, she exudes more confidence when dealing with other men. Many times the very first male-female relationship a woman has is with her father, so the bond or lack thereof, has the power to affect her throughout the rest of her remaining relationships with the opposite sex.
I’ve never thought about this so intimately; I can only go off of her feelings and personal experiences. It makes me wonder if this theory is true for others. In my opinion, she’s turned into a beautiful young lady, but when it comes to her relationships with men, she does exhibit many of the same issues that most women in similar situations have: She settles for less, when she’s clearly worthy of so much more.
When I was 15 my father moved to Belize. I was really hurt because my dad and I shared a very close and special relationship. As I look back during his absence, although it was for a short period, things in my life at that time changed and took a different direction. I know everything happens for a specific reason, but as I reflect on my situation, it really makes me wonder how one small aspect of a person’s life can generate such a drastic change. The same situation can have a completely different effect or outcome in the lives of two different people.
Regardless of whether someone has a father or not, God is your father and he is always there to talk to so never forget that 😉
Tip of the day: Live with no excuses and love with no regrets.
— Montel
Wearing: T-shirt & skirt Nordstrom rack, CL Heels, Gucci Bag.
I too share your friend's views. I always tell my husband that you can tell from a woman's behavior what kind of father she had. Father's support and love and appreciate lead to making strong, level headed and wise women. I have thought A LOT about it over the years and I still stand my the same opinion! 🙂
You look absolutely adorable in this outfit. Super cute!!!!
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This really hit home as a 31 year old woman I just realized that a lot of the issues I have had with men were because my father was not around. I always looked for a father figure in a man because that is something I always wanted. I am not moving past it and learning that I deserve nothing but the best in a man and will no longer settle for less. Good Post
Cute Shoes
A fathers love is like no other. Iam so thankful that although I never knew my biological father, my step father has been such a wonderful influence in my life. I thank God everyday for his love and for him teaching me how to be the strong woman I am today 🙂
You look great in your outfits and I love both pair of shoes you wore!
~Nic
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Amazing looks, darling!
Both pairs of shoes are gorgeous!
And I am in LOVE with that Gucci bag!
xoxox,
CC
I absolutely agree and my friends without active Fathers in their life have told me time and time again, how lucky I am that my Father is so active in my life.
Also, I had a male admit to me that he knowingly treated women with good Fathers different than he treated women without postive Father relationships because the women "without" allowed it. I was FLOORED and I asked him, if human beings don't deserve to be treated well, because they are human??
SAD BUT MORE WOMEN need to realize that the Supreme FATHER can and is willing to provide the very best and that there is no need to settle no matter what your earthly father did or did not do.
U look FAB as ALWAYS!
I will agree that having an active Father in your life makes a lot more difference. My girlfriends call my dad, dad! He treats them as if they were one of his own. I've noticed that it's not just having an active Dad, but active parents make a hell of a difference from those who don't. I learn from both of my parents and I'm proud to have turned out the woman I am and has yet to become.
I have a girlfriend whose father wasn't in her life, but I have to also put some blame towards her mother for not instilling certain values, morals, respect, loving yourself while growing up. So now she's a grown women who has insecurities, self worth issues, settling for less, the list could go on…
Anywho, love your fits. Your shoe/bag game is ridic!
Keep blogging 🙂
Super cute but casual. I need those Miu Miu wedges in my closet.
hey boo! You got the shoes!!!!! love love love infinity!!! lol!!! I agree also with one of your readers comment that she also credits her mother for instilling values, beliefs, etc…many times parents don't take the time out to explain things to their children and prepare them for life…great post…so true that God is the ultimate father and with him all things are possible no matter where you come from!
I have fallen in love with your blog. Its so inspirational; not to mention the fab shoes and bags and super cute outfits. You are beautiful. Keep blogging..xoxo
Amen to that…
I see you got that hair tied back, heh. Its pretty hot….I am going to cut a few inches off, just so I can try and wear it down.
I will say, I remember my father always acting like he didnt have time for me. And now that his health is bad, and he's all but bedridden, he wants to talk. Unfortunately, I live like 2000 miles away now. smh
Fashion comment first: THOSE SHOES ARE EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Being that my father has been in my life I couldn't imagine not having him but I also think at times women use the "I didn't have a father" reason waaaay too much to excuse them from poor decision making. But on the flip side I can't say for sure if I would be who I am today if he were absent.
The framboise suede Madame Butterfly Booties look amazing on you! You're such a beautiful person, inside and out!!
No regrets. No excuses. Amen. Gotta luv it! And gotta luv those Miu Mius! <3
Your words ALWAYS match your SHOES!!!! They be right on point… :))
I really love your blog & sense of fashion
Can you please tell me where did you get
Iphone 4 leopard or cheetah case from?
I completely agree with your friend. An inactive/absentee father = inactive/absentee self-respect a woman tends to have. Now, please do not get me wrong, as I know it is circumstantial to every person, and the reason as to why the father is absent (i.e., death, jail, divorce, etc.). I believe every child, both male and female, need role models of the opposite sex to be able to fully function and develop in a civilized society and mentality.
Blessings. xxx
PS…SHOES! [sigh] Love it!
You look gorgeous! I love those Mui Mui wedges!
I just happened to run across your blog. Girlfriend, you are FIERCE. I have just been inspired to step out of the house looking my best with a positive attitude at all times. THANK YOU!!
Those shoes are BOMB.COM
I agree also with one of your readers comment that she also credits her mother for instilling values, beliefs, etc…many times parents don't take the time out to explain things to their children and prepare them for life…great post…so true that God is the ultimate father and with him all things are possible no matter where you come from!
You look gorgeous! I love those Mui Mui wedges!
HI TANYA. LOVING YOUR PAGE GIRL. LOVE THE SHOES AND THE HANDBAGS >>>AS WE CALL THEM 'GIRLS'..THEY ARE BEAUTIFUL. YOUR ECONOMICAL SHOPPING IN CLOTHING IS AWESOME ALONG WITH YOUR FASHION. IM A BARGAIN ANNIE OVER HERE FOR STYLISH AND DESIGNER CLOTHES..I JUST BELEIVE EVERYTHING IS OVER PRICED WHEN THEY FIRST PUT A TAG ON IT..YOUr COMMENTS AND PRAISES TO ALL MIGHTY GOD IS THE BEST STRENGTH EVER. IM A FIRM BELIEVER AND WITNESS OF THAT FOR SURE. YOU STAY BLESSED LADY AND KEEP THOSE PICTURES AND COMMENTS COMING. I LOVE IT ALL
SHANNIE
Okay so I'm LOVING those pink CL Heels…and by CL you do mean Chinese Laundry right? I have been DYING all summer to finf these exact shoes in black but pink will do too! Is there a link where I could by them online? Thanks!
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Okay so I'm LOVING those pink CL Heels…and by CL you do mean Chinese Laundry right? I have been DYING all summer to finf these exact shoes in black but pink will do too! Is there a link where I could by them online? Thanks!
thatgabriellemarie.blogspot.com